Mama, are you being lied to? As a homeschool mom for about 8 years now, I have heard a lot of lies from every way humanly possible to hear. Whether through my own doubts or thoughts, satan’s lies planted in my thoughts, or people in general. What are you listening to?
Homeschooling and EVERY-thing it entails is complex. It’s not the easiest job choice in the world. My intention in this post is to shed some light on some common lies. In hopes to alleviate any thoughts or doubts you may or may not be having about your ability to raise, train and teach your children.
Top 5 lies Homeschool Moms Listen to
5.) I don’t have a teaching degree, I can’t Homeschool?- This is just ridiculous! Really? I can’t teach my Kid? Come on! Trust me you are more qualified than any top level teacher! God has placed this call on you so He has also given you the tools to be successful! If you would really take a step back and look at it in a God way, you would realize that you are the “chosen one” you are the one and only person God wants to teach your kids.
If anyone can tell you that this is a lie it would surely be me. I didn’t do well in school at all. I have zero degrees and we are trucking right along. The school part about it is easy, the spending 24\7 with the kids is the tough part…hahaha! You can do it momma!!
4.) My kids are not socialized– I’m going to try and explain this one nicely…lol!Most kids are awkward socially…I have been around plenty of kids and they are all just figuring it out. My girls, who aren’t vigorously socialized, are the first ones to go up to a new kid and introduce and ask to play.
This lie mostly comes from those who are “concerned” for no apparent reason about homeschool. Besides, when I was in school “socialization” was my biggest downfall, too many distractions to care about school. Socialization should not be the reason you send your kids to school. There are plenty of after school activities & events to promote a healthy social life. No worries momma they are socialized!
3.) I have to complete 8 hours a day of learning/ what if I’m not doing enough?– Nope, you don’t & yep you are…My girls have 3 hours tops and that’s on a busy day. We have got to get out of the public school mentality and get into HOME school mentality. God’s plan for your homeschool family isn’t a factory product… the same as everyone else. Think about it. In public school the children do not get the full attention of the teacher, but at home your kids get one on one learning always. This, my friend, is a game changer.
You do not need to overwork and stuff your kids with tons of information to feel like you are meeting the standards of a public school day. God has provided each one of you the tools and gifts to get the job done. Please just relax and enjoy teaching your kids and allow the Holy Spirit to lead your day. Your kids will learn more in less time if you are not all stressed out! You will walk in MUCH peace if you will quit comparing yourself to the school system.
2.) I am ruining my kids lives, they are missing out on so much– You know, I thought this lie for the first 2 years. My heart ached. When the Lord told me to homeschool my kids, I thought- What about sports?… What about the Christmas programs?… What about prom?…What about graduation? I was so excited about all these wonderful things! It was really hard to let go of the “norm” but I know God will provide much better opportunities for my girls along the way.
I have faith! And I am looking forward to it! I will abide in Jesus! I get to spend every day with 3 of the most amazing girls ever! Making personal memories with them daily! When you weigh that out these memories are so much more special! Such a happy momma!
1.) I am all alone– You are never alone! God has called you to this place for a reason and He is always alongside you! He is your biggest cheerleader and He is guiding your steps! If it is mama to mama contact you are in need of, just look for a homeschool co-op or homeschool support group in your area. You can also search Facebook for your state/city homeschool group on there. If you cannot find one start your own. Go to the library they usually have things for homeschooling families.
Seek God and He will make a way for you. Contact me if you need anything. I can be your friend and confidant and I will help you search in your area for a homeschool group.
Well, I hope I have cleared up some of the lies you may or may not have heard! Trust me, there are A LOT more. Lies are anything negative that is popping up in your head. God does not speak to us in a negative manner! Get up, dust yourself off and keep moving forward, you don’t have to prove yourself to anyone. Stay strong and walk in the peace of God. You are doing great Mama & remember you are not alone!
What lies are you listening to mama?
Forest Rose is a God Loving, Blessed Wife, & Relaxed, Eclectic Homeschooling Mama to 3 girls – 8, 11, & 12 in Fort Wayne, Indiana. She’s passionate about lifting moms out of the homeschooling trenches that are discouraged, overwhelmed or feeling alone or isolated. Her hope is to point them to Christ and equip them to rise up with a new found hope and joy within, that He alone can provide. Besides blogging, she also loves hanging out at her exclusive Facebook Group “Homeschooling 101 Community” that she started to help new homeschoolers thrive.
moi says
April 25, 2017 at 4:19 PMHigh School feels different on so many levels. I feel I am always behind in one way or another. My now sophomore college student has reflected on some things that he didn’t have (like a bazillion college credits from high school) upon entering the university like other classmates had. I know God works all things together for good and I will leave it at that!
anna says
March 9, 2019 at 9:31 PMthank you!
Camie says
December 13, 2016 at 1:04 AMLove this! I do often feel alone but there really are other like-minded moms out there also homeschooling. They just don’t live near me. And God really does qualify parents to teach their own children. We are their first teachers. Homeschooling is a blessing!
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Hannah says
June 6, 2016 at 12:06 PMThank you so much for your dedication to answering questions and concerns about homeschooling. My son is almost 4 years old and I have always wanted to homeschool. I have doubts concerning my ability to teach him, but they are also lies from the enemy. I have heard everything that you mentioned above, and I have given in and believed some of them from time to time. But I know what is in my heart and that God has placed it there. I am eager (and terrified) to start preschool homeschooling him. Basically it will be a continuation of what I have already been doing in reading to him and teaching him in everyday life. Why should I be worried about it? I have always tried to teach him as much as his little brain can contain, and he has proven to be very intelligent. He has a better memory than I do! Thank you once again, and I hope we can stay in touch as I begin this journey.
Forest Rose says
June 6, 2016 at 8:37 PMI too had so many doubts and fears when I was first called to homeschool, and still do sometimes. But it is so awesome that you are aware that that is all it is fear, doubt, and nothing more than lies from the enemy. Keep pushing forward and soon they will become minimal. Enjoy the early years they are the best! Many blessings on your journey. I’m here if you need me.
Beth Napoli says
April 16, 2016 at 6:10 PMFeeling all alone as a homeschool mom is the worst. As my kids get older, I find that other homeschooling families are not sending their kids to school. I have been blessed to find a community of homeschooling moms online.
Mother of 3 says
April 12, 2016 at 4:02 PMThat everyone else who is homeschooling has kids that get along so well and don’t fight. It sure seems that way when we see them out in public… getting along, sharing, being kind to one another. Meanwhile my kids are bullying one another and fighting to the death over the “right” seat in the car. Took me a few years to realize that kids and siblings are kids and siblings.
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