Top 25 Tips for Becoming a Better Mom to Your Young Children

I know how tough it can be to balance all the responsibilities that come with being a mom, especially when you have young children. It can be overwhelming and bring a lot of feelings of anxiety, guilt and shame. Becoming a better mom to your young kids is a journey that involves a combination of learning, growing, adapting and fighting back against wrong thinking. You are not a bad mom, you just have to change your mindset to believe that.

Once you think you have this stage of motherhood figured out, the kids move to the next stage. Motherhood is a series of constant changes, so hang on, you will never get to a point where you have it all figured out, but that is okay. No one figures it all out, but there are tools we can use to help us through it.

Looking for quick and practical tips to become a better mom to your young kids?

Check out our list of 25 actionable tips that cover everything from spending quality time with your kids, to showing empathy, setting boundaries, and taking care of yourself. These tips are designed to help you improve your parenting skills and build a stronger relationship with your kids, so you can create a loving and supportive environment for your family. Pin this post for easy access to these valuable parenting hacks!

When the negative thoughts speak loud

I’ve had so many nights in the last 17 years of motherhood that I allowed condemnation, guilt and shame to drowned me. I allowed negative self-talk to take hold way too many times.

I would think things like – Why did I yell at my daughter today over something so ridiculous?  Why didn’t I get the laundry done today? Why didn’t I make something healthier for dinner? Why can’t I get it together? These thoughts can be debilitating and they always come right when you are trying to go to sleep or they talk so loud that they wake you up and 3 am never to release you and let you rest.

Do not give these thoughts a place in your day. As soon as they pop up you have to be quick to knock them out. It’s just the enemy attacking your mind and trying to keep you down. Motherhood is not easy so remember to give yourself grace!

The Word of God is a powerful weapon. You can fight those thoughts with it. This will help you become a better mom to your young kids.

Renew your mind with these scriptures to become a better mom to your young kids:

• “For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.” – 2 Timothy 1:7
• “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” – Romans 8:1
• “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” – Matthew 11:28
• “The Lord is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love.” – Psalm 103:8
• “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!” – 2 Corinthians 5:17
• “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” – Philippians 4:13
• “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” – 1 Peter 5:7
• “The Lord your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing.” – Zephaniah 3:17
• “But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.'” – 2 Corinthians 12:9
• “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” – Proverbs 3:5-6

Bible Affirmations for moms to help become better moms to your young kids

Affirmations, decrees, declarations, confessions – whatever you want to call them. This is the act of speaking the powerful Word of God to change your thought pattern by renewing your mind. Verbally speaking the Bible to cast down all those imaginations and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ. 

When you are feeling guilty or ashamed about losing it or not getting housework done, it can weigh on you as a mom. confessing the Bible can help counteract those negative thoughts and emotions by providing positive and powerful words to replace that negative self-talk in your thoughts.

By using Christian affirmations, you can develop a more positive self-image and build your self-esteem. This can ultimately lead to a more confident and contented approach to your parenting style, which can benefit the whole family.

10 Christian affirmations for moms, along with corresponding Bible verses:

1. I am loved and cared for by God. “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” – 1 Peter 5:7
2. I trust in the Lord with all my heart, and I do not lean on my own understanding. “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” – Proverbs 3:5-6
3. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” – Philippians 4:13
4. I am a child of God and He has given me peace. “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” – John 14:27
5. I am strong and courageous because the Lord is with me. “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” – Joshua 1:9
6. I give all my worries and fears to God and He gives me rest. “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” – Matthew 11:28
7. I am grateful for all the blessings God has given me. “Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” – 1 Thessalonians 5:18
8. I have the mind of Christ and I choose to think on good things. “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” – Philippians 4:8
9. I have hope in God’s promises. “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” – Jeremiah 29:11
10. I am not alone in my struggles. “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.” – 1 Thessalonians 5:11

Here’s your list of 25 quick tips to help you become a better mom to your young kids. So let’s get started!

1. Take time to pray first thing every day – it’s so important to put your relationship with the Father first, if you can only choose one of these, this is the one that can bring a mighty transformation.
2. Don’t sweat the small stuff – let go of the things that don’t really matter, spilled milk, house isn’t perfect, dishes aren’t done, etc.
3. Get organized – having a system in place will make your life easier, not looking for perfection, just a plan.
4. Make mealtime fun – involve your kids in the cooking process, kids love to be a part of “grown up” things, this will breathe life into your mealtimes and it also helps with picky eaters.
5. Turn off the technology – spend quality time with your children without any distractions. Not saying you can’t check your social media or have a show on for your kids, but just have an hour or two with no tech, no TV, no iPad, no phone.
6. Create a routine – having a routine will help your children feel more secure. Not a rigorous schedule, but having a vague routine will make a huge difference in your days running smoother and kids love routine.
7. Get outside – fresh air and exercise are good for everyone.
8. Take pictures – capture those special moments to cherish later.
9. Have a designated “kid space” – a place where your children can play and be creative.
10. Involve your kids in household chores – it teaches responsibility and gives them a sense of accomplishment, I have a few printables that could help implement this.
11. Practice patience – it’s not always easy, but it’s important to keep calm in stressful situations. We aren’t perfect people, we flip out, we overreact, we make mistakes, dust yourself off and forgive yourself. Looks for ways to cope in those stressful situations – stop and pray, count to ten, say a scripture, anything that will help you calm down and not react.
12. Read together – reading is a great way to bond with your kids, there are so many benefits for reading to your child.
13. Take advantage of naptime – use this time to recharge or get things done. When my kids were little I used this time to pray and rest. Everyone recharges in different ways, do what makes you happy and feel refreshed.
14. Have a family game night – it’s a fun way to spend quality time together.
15. Plan activities together – involve your children in planning activities they’ll enjoy.
16. Learn from other moms – join a mom group to share tips and advice.
17. Keep healthy snacks on hand – it’s a great way to ensure your kids are eating well and no one wants to be in a situation that they are stuck with hangry kids.
18. Encourage creativity – let your children explore their imaginations.
19. Celebrate achievements – even small accomplishments deserve recognition.
20. Practice self-care – take care of your own physical and mental health. 
21. Teach kindness – it’s an important lesson that will benefit your children throughout their lives.
22. Be consistent – follow through on your promises and rules.
23. Keep a positive attitude – children pick up on our moods and attitudes.
24. Show affection – hugs and kisses are important for building strong relationships.
25. Be present – make the most of the time you have with your children.

Hopefully these powerful tips will help you on your quest to become a better mom to your young kids. Remember, every kids needs are different, and what works for one may not work for another. Don’t be too hard on yourself, and always give yourself grace and fight the overwhelm, guilt and shame with scripture.

Forest Rose

Forest Rose is a God Loving, Blessed Wife, &  Mama to 3 girls. She’s passionate about lifting moms out of the trenches that are discouraged, overwhelmed, or feeling alone or isolated. Her hope is to point them to Christ and equip them to rise up with a newfound hope and joy within, that He alone can provide. Besides blogging, she also loves to create printables!